how we keep it soft

Community guidelines

Six small rules keep this space safe. Read them once, and you'll know how to be here.

1. 01Kindness is the only currency here

   Every post gets read by a real, tired human. Speak how you'd want to be spoken to at your lowest.

2. 02Anonymity is sacred

   Don't ask for names, socials, ages, or locations. Don't share your own contact info in the open thread either — it protects you too.

3. 03No advice unless asked

   "Have you tried therapy?" isn't kindness, it's dismissal. Reflect, validate, share your own experience — that's what heals.

4. 04Reply to lift, not to fix

   A hug, a "me too," a quiet "I'm here" is worth more than a paragraph of solutions.

5. 05Report what feels off

   If a post or reply is cruel, spammy, or unsafe, tap the flag. Every report is reviewed by a real person.

6. 06If someone is in crisis — including you

   We are not a helpline. If you or someone here mentions self-harm or suicidal thoughts, please reach out to a professional — resources are shared automatically when we detect crisis language.